Let me state for the reader that I don’t usually review movies. Never had the time nor the focus.
This one starts off right. No bull shit. Tenured Professor of English, You have cancer.
Got 6 months. Go!.
There is a reason that most people can relate to this character. This guy is the ultimate goal for all of those quiet, decent guys out there, you know the ones who actually struggled to be good people. Those who followed the keep your head down, work hard, listen to your mum types. The people pleasers and the ones who would apologize even when it’s not their fault.
The ones who can have it all but play by the rules and consciously try to never step on people’s toes.
Life is hard and often times not fair. Its one thing to stay in line with the fear of punishment as a motivator and the other to actually embrace it and live to its extent while staying in line.
I used to believe that getting the girl was the destination and the means could justify the ends. But its not as simple as that. Even if you get the girl and somehow manage to keep her. (This guy did!). And never could get over the fact. This movie helps you see that.
“In his forty-third year William Stoner learned what others, much younger, had learned before him: that the person one loves at first is not the person one loves at last, and that love is not an end but a process through which one person attempts to know another.
They were both very shy, and they knew each other slowly, tentatively; they came close and drew apart, they touched and withdrew, neither wishing to impose upon the other more than might be welcomed. Day by day the layers of reserve that protected them dropped away, so that at last they were like many who are extraordinarily shy, each open to the other, unprotected, perfectly and unselfconsciously at ease.
Nearly every afternoon, when his classes were over, he came to her apartment. They made love, and talked, and made love again, like children who did not think of tiring at their play. The spring days lengthened, and they looked forward to the summer.”
― John Williams, Stoner
There is a chance you gave up a lot of what mattered to get there. She won’t ever respect you after that. And by the time she will maybe the times over. Spoiler! XD
So there is the simple review and the moral of the story. You may find the love of your life and you may find something fighting for. But fight for yourself first. Don’t settle for bliss.
No one person is the destination; your happiness is the goal and your wellbeing is the destination. As someone very eloquently put it; “your life is like a choo choo train”. People may choose to get on and may choose to get off. You can’t stop the train and you can’t force people to get on board.
You’ve only got limited capacity anyways.
And don’t wait until the end of tracks sign to realize that.